I'm scared i might lose my ssi.I've been on it for 8 yrs for Narcolepsy,depression , bi-polar and anxiety.?
Question: i just got papers saying my case needs to be reviewed, they want my bank stastements for the past 2 years.every month i buy stuff /clothes etc. in the beginning and return it all when i need to pay rent.I've been doing this for awhile.I also get help fvrom my dad, who lives states away, he tells me if i need something to call him and if he agrees ,just buy it and he'll either send me the money or give it to me when he sees me.I'm scred this all might look funny, can i explain that to ssi???i do work off the boioks somertimes but its only cleaning once a week or every other4 week someones house for 30 -40 dollars.should i tell them that.My anxiety and biupolar has been really bad, i have no friends and my family hates me and wont see me, just my dad will.I was pregnant a few months ago ,.and my mom and doctors told me i shouldnt keep it, i had an abortion and since then i've been a mess emotionally , i cant concentrate, i'm always crying etc. i cant handle this! i'm really scared
Answers: this type of review is standard. Just do the best you can to find the reciepts and don't worry about the rest. SSA just wants to make sure that you are using your money appropriately. If your dad does not send you regular monies monthly then you have no obligation to tell them. Don't tell them about the cleaning job...it is under the table! I think that you need to seek more professional help. Do you have a case manager or someone else that can help you navigate the system better. I used to be a case manager. let me know if i can be of any more help
You do not need to convince us of your hard times, I believe you. I think they want to review all of you, as in financial and mental. They may just want to find out if you are capable in handling the money or if you need more intervention. Unless you clesr medically well they can not just cut you off, at least not in my sisters case. It just ended up with her that she was being irresponsible with her money and they got her some help with it. Do not panic yet, try and find out why and what they need to know..Good Luck
Please don't take this the wrong way:
Gift of money from your dad are considered sources of income.
It will be very difficult for you to explain the buying of items, when that money is supposed to buy you a roof over your head and food to keep you alive.
If you are returning the items for cash, the SSI office won't see that. If your father is depositing money into your bank account, that will be money you are most likely going to have to pay back to the system.
Plus, buying and returning items is just driving the market to be more expensive. Especially if these things aren't re-sellable. That's a loss to the company.
I'm not sure what you can say to the SSI office, If they see all these purchases, they may turn around and ask Well who's paying your bills? ... and if you can't prove you are paying them with the money they are providing to you even though you are in essence borrowing it to buy clothes, then you could be in buckets of trouble.
There may be a way out of it if you can prove that the buying and returning cycle is part of your conditions. You have the right to appeal any decision they make.
Every so often we do have to be reviewed if we get SSI.
You may have to fill out a medical form. Be sure to let them know about all the meds. you need to take. You probably would never be able to afford them without the help of SSI.
Do you also get SSDI? If you go for therapy, be sure to write that down. That is an expense you would not be able to afford without assistance. The money you make from cleaning does not amount to much. You will need to tell them how much you spend on groceries each week as well as any other bills you pay. I don't think you will need to worry. You have a lot of problems. Best Wishes and Good Luck
Go see your doctor and his diagnosis will help.
PS while your there GET ON THE FREAKIN PILL
EVERYONE on SSI or SS disability gets reviewed periodically, that's how it works. Doing stuff off the books, etc., will only get you in trouble. Get to your doctor for the right medical paperwork/support for your case, and take better care of your records and yourself. I know it can be very difficult with the combination of bi-polar and anxiety, but being in control will help you manage the anxiety. (And yes, please, do something about birth control!)
hang on in there kid,your condition must be very delicately dealt with,you are very stressed mostly by your condition.
go easier on yourself i would think that your family including your dad are on tender hooks and would all like to hug you really.
but your own reactions are your problem.
families sometime find it hard to come to terms with illness.
and react in strange ways, who ever is reinvestigating you is doing it for you and only you.
a child would only have complicated your life even more.
chin up all this will pass given time and help just give them the chance to help. even the authorities help us all at some time just trust in people.
we all have problems, dont sit there and whine about it, get up and do something about it. I have depression and anxiety too, but I vowed not to let it ruin my life. I take my meds and deal with it. The more you do activity wise and work wise makes you feel 100% better. try not to have an excuse or everything
You should talk to your dad then...
Tell him that you're really not doing well
Ask him for help
IF he doesn't want to or can't help you, ask for help from your community
Look for support groups and others to talk to
When I get depressed, I too feel like I have no friends, but it's only because I tended to isolate myself too much, away from any possible support or help
Be open to encouragement, help, love, sympathy and a little critisism (from yourself) and when you're feeling anxious or you are having a bipolar episode, close your eyes take a deep breathe.
You have all the answers, love and motivation you need right in your soul, they are simply lost in all the noise and thought pollution... only with a clear mind and conscience can you grow to be a better person
you can change your thoughts, you can erase your existing process of thinking and develop and new more effective one, you can translate your feelings to better understand where they come from and you can learn to pace yourself and change how slow or how fast life seems to be passing you by... it takes time and patience and will never really be perfect, but once you recognize the difference between reactive thinking and proactive thinking, you'll definitly gain more control over behavioral problems
I had an abortion too; it was tough
but I knew I was doing the right thing in my heart
I decided that, even though I will never be able to please everyone at once, this was MY decision and I didnt NEED to justify it to anybody
be strong
please stop being scared
it's okay to cry and feel lost
center your thoughts and replace your bad habits with new ones
Slow down a little too, enjoy life even when it's being a b*tch
Answers: this type of review is standard. Just do the best you can to find the reciepts and don't worry about the rest. SSA just wants to make sure that you are using your money appropriately. If your dad does not send you regular monies monthly then you have no obligation to tell them. Don't tell them about the cleaning job...it is under the table! I think that you need to seek more professional help. Do you have a case manager or someone else that can help you navigate the system better. I used to be a case manager. let me know if i can be of any more help
You do not need to convince us of your hard times, I believe you. I think they want to review all of you, as in financial and mental. They may just want to find out if you are capable in handling the money or if you need more intervention. Unless you clesr medically well they can not just cut you off, at least not in my sisters case. It just ended up with her that she was being irresponsible with her money and they got her some help with it. Do not panic yet, try and find out why and what they need to know..Good Luck
Please don't take this the wrong way:
Gift of money from your dad are considered sources of income.
It will be very difficult for you to explain the buying of items, when that money is supposed to buy you a roof over your head and food to keep you alive.
If you are returning the items for cash, the SSI office won't see that. If your father is depositing money into your bank account, that will be money you are most likely going to have to pay back to the system.
Plus, buying and returning items is just driving the market to be more expensive. Especially if these things aren't re-sellable. That's a loss to the company.
I'm not sure what you can say to the SSI office, If they see all these purchases, they may turn around and ask Well who's paying your bills? ... and if you can't prove you are paying them with the money they are providing to you even though you are in essence borrowing it to buy clothes, then you could be in buckets of trouble.
There may be a way out of it if you can prove that the buying and returning cycle is part of your conditions. You have the right to appeal any decision they make.
Every so often we do have to be reviewed if we get SSI.
You may have to fill out a medical form. Be sure to let them know about all the meds. you need to take. You probably would never be able to afford them without the help of SSI.
Do you also get SSDI? If you go for therapy, be sure to write that down. That is an expense you would not be able to afford without assistance. The money you make from cleaning does not amount to much. You will need to tell them how much you spend on groceries each week as well as any other bills you pay. I don't think you will need to worry. You have a lot of problems. Best Wishes and Good Luck
Go see your doctor and his diagnosis will help.
PS while your there GET ON THE FREAKIN PILL
EVERYONE on SSI or SS disability gets reviewed periodically, that's how it works. Doing stuff off the books, etc., will only get you in trouble. Get to your doctor for the right medical paperwork/support for your case, and take better care of your records and yourself. I know it can be very difficult with the combination of bi-polar and anxiety, but being in control will help you manage the anxiety. (And yes, please, do something about birth control!)
hang on in there kid,your condition must be very delicately dealt with,you are very stressed mostly by your condition.
go easier on yourself i would think that your family including your dad are on tender hooks and would all like to hug you really.
but your own reactions are your problem.
families sometime find it hard to come to terms with illness.
and react in strange ways, who ever is reinvestigating you is doing it for you and only you.
a child would only have complicated your life even more.
chin up all this will pass given time and help just give them the chance to help. even the authorities help us all at some time just trust in people.
we all have problems, dont sit there and whine about it, get up and do something about it. I have depression and anxiety too, but I vowed not to let it ruin my life. I take my meds and deal with it. The more you do activity wise and work wise makes you feel 100% better. try not to have an excuse or everything
You should talk to your dad then...
Tell him that you're really not doing well
Ask him for help
IF he doesn't want to or can't help you, ask for help from your community
Look for support groups and others to talk to
When I get depressed, I too feel like I have no friends, but it's only because I tended to isolate myself too much, away from any possible support or help
Be open to encouragement, help, love, sympathy and a little critisism (from yourself) and when you're feeling anxious or you are having a bipolar episode, close your eyes take a deep breathe.
You have all the answers, love and motivation you need right in your soul, they are simply lost in all the noise and thought pollution... only with a clear mind and conscience can you grow to be a better person
you can change your thoughts, you can erase your existing process of thinking and develop and new more effective one, you can translate your feelings to better understand where they come from and you can learn to pace yourself and change how slow or how fast life seems to be passing you by... it takes time and patience and will never really be perfect, but once you recognize the difference between reactive thinking and proactive thinking, you'll definitly gain more control over behavioral problems
I had an abortion too; it was tough
but I knew I was doing the right thing in my heart
I decided that, even though I will never be able to please everyone at once, this was MY decision and I didnt NEED to justify it to anybody
be strong
please stop being scared
it's okay to cry and feel lost
center your thoughts and replace your bad habits with new ones
Slow down a little too, enjoy life even when it's being a b*tch
More questions & answers:
- Does anyone have a problem with tolerance to Aderrall?
- My boyfriend is suffering from narcolepcy?
- Can Adderall and Dexadrine make you crazy?
- Adult ADD and medicating with amphetamines?
- How can i get my doc to give me sleeping pills? i really need them!?
- Sleep/concentration problems?
- Sleeping problem...?
- Do I have a sleeping disorder?
- How depression & anxiety affect sleep, eating and money matters? What solutions beside medicine are available?
- My work mate is always falling asleep....?
- Self-diagnosis?
- Diagnosis of: always blaming others, antisocial behavior, lying about sexual issues?