Is your anxiety ever this bad??
Question: I was diagnosed with clinical depression 15 yrs ago and was in therapy for the first five years after diagnosis. Have also been on meds for depression...but am on nothing right now as I feel it makes me act odd. I don't feel like myself on those drugs and I don't want to go back to therapy if I can help it as it is so expensive. Mostly I have anxiety now, which is of course linked to depression...here is my question.
Is your anxiety ever so bad that your stomach hurts and you have this awful feeling of dread come over you over the smallest of things? I am morbidly obese and asked advice on yahoo answers about whether or not I should accompany my hubby on events that I didn't want to go to and spoke about how I just felt so insecure about others seeing me. Every 1 thought I should go as he is my hubby. So, I agreed to go to a wedding in Nov even though I am sick to my stomach over it. Could this be anxiety attacks? My worries are rarely huge, always small.
Answers: Awww, sorry you are feeling so bad. Yes, I think the nausea could be depression.
It's nice to go to support your husband, but when your anxiety makes you ill, it's hard to see if you're striking the right balance, isn't it? (I can relate.)
Here are a couple of random thoughts that may give you food for thought: Since you do not want to go to the wedding because of your appearance, can you do ANYTHING to make yourself presentable enough by then to go? If not, then maybe you really cannot go, and you have to tell your husband and take the pressure off, but then get busy on that problem. If, however, you can go and feel OK about you look, then get busy on THAT.
If I could attach a drawing here, I would -- a decision tree that illustrates this idea: an arrow that goes to two decisions, yes and no. For you, as I see it, either way maybe you could use some short term counseling to deal with your decision.
I am overweight, too, and yesterday I joined Weight Watchers. But today instead of going for a walk at lunchtime, here I am answering questions instead. I am married to a man who has a serious mental illness, and sometimes the stress gets so bad that I just stay at work to keep from going home and having to deal with his problems. Last night I stayed here until 8 pm and still had to drive 40 miles home.
People like you and me have to opt for health. I wish you the best with this, and I was just thinking that this wedding thing is a possible incentive to some good progress. I hope your husband is supportive. Maybe some very short-term counseling...
hey its ok..yes totally anxiety or a panic attack..there are rx you can take like valium or klonopin xanax that can calm you down before big events...i know what it is like..you think you are crippled and or going to die.
Worry comes with it
try yoga (really) to breathing is very helpful and meditation.
your husband loves you and wants you to go with him to events because of that. F all the other people who have a problem with you being over weight.
It is good to have a friend or therapist handy to talk to even for a few minutes on the phone.
Some anxiety is normal.
There are four tricks I use when I am stressed.
I take 3 deep slow breaths that I let out slowly.
I go for a long walk with my wife and dogs.
I do a progressive muscle relaxation exercise.
I do a self-guided meditation daydream exercise.
Writing also helps.
The main problem is that we focus too much on our feelings and our thoughts turn to the negative as we feel the pain and discomfort.
http://themeaningisyou.com
Yes, it is odd how we can fret over the little
things, but usually when we are there(like where you don.t want to go, our nerves will go away...It happens to most of us for whatever reason..You go, and enjoy yourself..You'll be fine.....bettyk
if you want to use an all natural helper try Positive Thoughts it is made by source naturals, it really work very well. Also valarian works good to calm the nerves. Anxiety attacks can be very frustrating, and it doesn't take a huge thing to bring one on, just a bunch of little things. Try the herbal supplement and see if this helps you. For your weight problem find the book The weight Loss Cure, my whole family has done it and seen amazing results, I dropped 8 dress sizes in 4 months.
My husband lost 43 pounds in 4 months. God Bless.
It sounds to me like you are having panic attacks. Does your chest hurt? Do you feel like everything is a big deal and somethings are life and death matters when they are really small?
I had panic attacks and was on meds. But I didnt like how they made me feel. I had to find away to deal. I just started getting busy, cleaning, cooking, and anything that I could think of to make myself not think of the anxiety and the problems. It was hard but not doing it and staying the way I was was not an option. If you want to get better you can. You just have to find a way that works for you. I still have some days when i am anxious but I deal with it and go on. SOme days are better then others.
I don't get stomach pain but I sweat alot and the feeling of dread just dumps itself on me like a Saint Bernard. I'm not on any medication but I've learned to live with the weirdness and so have the people closest to me. Sometimes you just need to go through it. I find that the more I go through the more comfortable I am with it and the less it bothers me. New fear, new courage - that's how I think of it.
Well, that's a mouth full isn't it.......I think you should consider educating yourself about anxiety. A problem is always more easily delt with when one is educated. Consider congnative therapy and perhaps self help groups that have other people with the same ocncerns/issues. See what works for others. When you share your porblems with others and they with you the problems lose power over you. Focus on one issue at a time. Define your problem one problem at a time. Do not mince problems as though you are making a vegtable soup. You mentioned your over weight, what does that have to do with anxiety, if you were not over weight would you have this anxiety?
Best of luck,
Sometimes my panic attacks are so bad I get paralyzed . I'll do just about anything to avoid them So much fear and it comes like WHAMMO . No one can understand unless they've been thru it. I take a half mg. of risperdal and it helps a lot..first thing I've found that helps. I wish I could go thru these really really stressful times and handle it...but I can't. I try to avoid events that I know might cause this. (I used to call that awful feeling you talk about Big Bird ...sitting on my head) I remember taking elavil for it one time and it went away. I was so excited that that feeling was gone, people thought I was on street drugs. I think most people don't know how good it feels not to hurt...when you've been hurting so long.
If your husband wants you to go with him....then that should be enough for you (if you're worried about what others think) When you get down to it...family ..close family are the most important thing. Don't worry about the others. They gotta down SOMEBODY so they'll feel like they're somebody. Good Luck HAVE FUN !!! (Just pretend that you're thin !!)
it sounds to me like you are afraid and nervous. You need to face the world sometime and the more you lock yourself away the more weight your going to gain. I know it's a viscous cycle your over weight and it depresses you. Your depressed so you eat more. You need to love yourself and once you do weddings and events wont seem like dentist visits. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks. All that matters is your family. I have a saying and it goes like this f*ck em'!!!! Turn your fears into challenges, it will feel really good after you go through with it to know that you have accomplished your goal. Yes, it is anxiety but it is fear that is causing it. Try reading a self help book or take it to the next level and see a psychiatrist.
I have anxiety and depression as well. I just turned 30 this month. I've been on every medication so far.Now I'm on Welbutrin.
I fully understand where you are comming from. I quite frequently have anxiety attacks. My syptoms are severe migraines and nausea. Alot of the times I feel like I'm losing my mind.I really can't give you advice,but try to stay calm and just try to enjoy your self with your husband.
I am going to set the mental illness aside for now and look at the weight gain. I was expecting to correct my own weight with keeping busy but the past two years it seems to be different. SO it is my diet. It was full of soy and margarine oils and they were turning acid late in the day . I had too many movements and then late in the day I was starving hungry. A friend has shown me that coconut oil twice a day will return your gut to normal in three days and then you don't feel the hunger. It is four weeks now and the oil correction has not caused me to be ill. I use only butter and olive oil in cooking. I am slowly losing weight now. Your mental attitude is correct and you will be fine in ten years time.
Yes; sounds like you have some social anxiety. Try doing things to boost your confidence and self esteem if you're nervous about going out. Do a hard workout, buy a new outfit, get your hair/makeup done.. anything to help make you feel more 'acceptable'.
It happens.. I am 5'2 112lbs and workout every day but feel overwhelmingly anxious whenever we go out to a party/bar/event/the beach/etc. Doing little confidence boosters helps, and let your husband know how you feel. I explain it to my boyfriend, and although he doesn't really understand at least I have some backup!
Is your anxiety ever so bad that your stomach hurts and you have this awful feeling of dread come over you over the smallest of things? I am morbidly obese and asked advice on yahoo answers about whether or not I should accompany my hubby on events that I didn't want to go to and spoke about how I just felt so insecure about others seeing me. Every 1 thought I should go as he is my hubby. So, I agreed to go to a wedding in Nov even though I am sick to my stomach over it. Could this be anxiety attacks? My worries are rarely huge, always small.
Answers: Awww, sorry you are feeling so bad. Yes, I think the nausea could be depression.
It's nice to go to support your husband, but when your anxiety makes you ill, it's hard to see if you're striking the right balance, isn't it? (I can relate.)
Here are a couple of random thoughts that may give you food for thought: Since you do not want to go to the wedding because of your appearance, can you do ANYTHING to make yourself presentable enough by then to go? If not, then maybe you really cannot go, and you have to tell your husband and take the pressure off, but then get busy on that problem. If, however, you can go and feel OK about you look, then get busy on THAT.
If I could attach a drawing here, I would -- a decision tree that illustrates this idea: an arrow that goes to two decisions, yes and no. For you, as I see it, either way maybe you could use some short term counseling to deal with your decision.
I am overweight, too, and yesterday I joined Weight Watchers. But today instead of going for a walk at lunchtime, here I am answering questions instead. I am married to a man who has a serious mental illness, and sometimes the stress gets so bad that I just stay at work to keep from going home and having to deal with his problems. Last night I stayed here until 8 pm and still had to drive 40 miles home.
People like you and me have to opt for health. I wish you the best with this, and I was just thinking that this wedding thing is a possible incentive to some good progress. I hope your husband is supportive. Maybe some very short-term counseling...
hey its ok..yes totally anxiety or a panic attack..there are rx you can take like valium or klonopin xanax that can calm you down before big events...i know what it is like..you think you are crippled and or going to die.
Worry comes with it
try yoga (really) to breathing is very helpful and meditation.
your husband loves you and wants you to go with him to events because of that. F all the other people who have a problem with you being over weight.
It is good to have a friend or therapist handy to talk to even for a few minutes on the phone.
Some anxiety is normal.
There are four tricks I use when I am stressed.
I take 3 deep slow breaths that I let out slowly.
I go for a long walk with my wife and dogs.
I do a progressive muscle relaxation exercise.
I do a self-guided meditation daydream exercise.
Writing also helps.
The main problem is that we focus too much on our feelings and our thoughts turn to the negative as we feel the pain and discomfort.
http://themeaningisyou.com
Yes, it is odd how we can fret over the little
things, but usually when we are there(like where you don.t want to go, our nerves will go away...It happens to most of us for whatever reason..You go, and enjoy yourself..You'll be fine.....bettyk
if you want to use an all natural helper try Positive Thoughts it is made by source naturals, it really work very well. Also valarian works good to calm the nerves. Anxiety attacks can be very frustrating, and it doesn't take a huge thing to bring one on, just a bunch of little things. Try the herbal supplement and see if this helps you. For your weight problem find the book The weight Loss Cure, my whole family has done it and seen amazing results, I dropped 8 dress sizes in 4 months.
My husband lost 43 pounds in 4 months. God Bless.
It sounds to me like you are having panic attacks. Does your chest hurt? Do you feel like everything is a big deal and somethings are life and death matters when they are really small?
I had panic attacks and was on meds. But I didnt like how they made me feel. I had to find away to deal. I just started getting busy, cleaning, cooking, and anything that I could think of to make myself not think of the anxiety and the problems. It was hard but not doing it and staying the way I was was not an option. If you want to get better you can. You just have to find a way that works for you. I still have some days when i am anxious but I deal with it and go on. SOme days are better then others.
I don't get stomach pain but I sweat alot and the feeling of dread just dumps itself on me like a Saint Bernard. I'm not on any medication but I've learned to live with the weirdness and so have the people closest to me. Sometimes you just need to go through it. I find that the more I go through the more comfortable I am with it and the less it bothers me. New fear, new courage - that's how I think of it.
Well, that's a mouth full isn't it.......I think you should consider educating yourself about anxiety. A problem is always more easily delt with when one is educated. Consider congnative therapy and perhaps self help groups that have other people with the same ocncerns/issues. See what works for others. When you share your porblems with others and they with you the problems lose power over you. Focus on one issue at a time. Define your problem one problem at a time. Do not mince problems as though you are making a vegtable soup. You mentioned your over weight, what does that have to do with anxiety, if you were not over weight would you have this anxiety?
Best of luck,
Sometimes my panic attacks are so bad I get paralyzed . I'll do just about anything to avoid them So much fear and it comes like WHAMMO . No one can understand unless they've been thru it. I take a half mg. of risperdal and it helps a lot..first thing I've found that helps. I wish I could go thru these really really stressful times and handle it...but I can't. I try to avoid events that I know might cause this. (I used to call that awful feeling you talk about Big Bird ...sitting on my head) I remember taking elavil for it one time and it went away. I was so excited that that feeling was gone, people thought I was on street drugs. I think most people don't know how good it feels not to hurt...when you've been hurting so long.
If your husband wants you to go with him....then that should be enough for you (if you're worried about what others think) When you get down to it...family ..close family are the most important thing. Don't worry about the others. They gotta down SOMEBODY so they'll feel like they're somebody. Good Luck HAVE FUN !!! (Just pretend that you're thin !!)
it sounds to me like you are afraid and nervous. You need to face the world sometime and the more you lock yourself away the more weight your going to gain. I know it's a viscous cycle your over weight and it depresses you. Your depressed so you eat more. You need to love yourself and once you do weddings and events wont seem like dentist visits. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks. All that matters is your family. I have a saying and it goes like this f*ck em'!!!! Turn your fears into challenges, it will feel really good after you go through with it to know that you have accomplished your goal. Yes, it is anxiety but it is fear that is causing it. Try reading a self help book or take it to the next level and see a psychiatrist.
I have anxiety and depression as well. I just turned 30 this month. I've been on every medication so far.Now I'm on Welbutrin.
I fully understand where you are comming from. I quite frequently have anxiety attacks. My syptoms are severe migraines and nausea. Alot of the times I feel like I'm losing my mind.I really can't give you advice,but try to stay calm and just try to enjoy your self with your husband.
I am going to set the mental illness aside for now and look at the weight gain. I was expecting to correct my own weight with keeping busy but the past two years it seems to be different. SO it is my diet. It was full of soy and margarine oils and they were turning acid late in the day . I had too many movements and then late in the day I was starving hungry. A friend has shown me that coconut oil twice a day will return your gut to normal in three days and then you don't feel the hunger. It is four weeks now and the oil correction has not caused me to be ill. I use only butter and olive oil in cooking. I am slowly losing weight now. Your mental attitude is correct and you will be fine in ten years time.
Yes; sounds like you have some social anxiety. Try doing things to boost your confidence and self esteem if you're nervous about going out. Do a hard workout, buy a new outfit, get your hair/makeup done.. anything to help make you feel more 'acceptable'.
It happens.. I am 5'2 112lbs and workout every day but feel overwhelmingly anxious whenever we go out to a party/bar/event/the beach/etc. Doing little confidence boosters helps, and let your husband know how you feel. I explain it to my boyfriend, and although he doesn't really understand at least I have some backup!
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