Intrusive thoughts! feel suicidal??
Question: I have not told anyone about this, not even a doctor or psychiatist etc... But all my life i have had horrible thoughts. THey started off when i was little, really stupid things when i look back on it like eating horrible things! THese annoyed me at the time but i assumed other people had such thoughts. Over the years, these thoughts have got worse and worse. Now they are so disgusting that I end up pulling my hair and burying my face in my pillow! I can't go on with these thoughts...the wrost involve incest and violence... i feel sick even saying that! Sometimes i just want to kill myself and put an end to it all. The thing is I am a normal person - very outgoing and social with lots of friends. But nobody knows this. And its killing me!
I don't want to go see a doctor / psychiatrist because i cant tell them what the thoughts are as they are so repulsive!!
It's only after a bit of research on here i have discovered that I may have OCD. COuld this also be linked to the fact I'm always paranoid about getting cancer etc... (hypochondirac!)
I don't understand! I've always taken risks in life (e.g going skydiving soon) but I get extremely anxious about diseases etc!
I really need some advice, what can i do to get rid of these thoughts!?
One which in particular makes me feel sick is i get a though during masturbation/sexual activity - despite me being absolutely disgusted it makes me ejaculate extremely quickly! I know for a fact i do not like any of these thoughts! I am not homosexual, a paedophile etc... but why this!?
Does anyone else have the same problems?!?! Please help.
I'm only 17 by the way.
Answers: The only true way you will be able to deal with it and understand it is if you do go to a professional. It doesn't make you a bad person, especially since you realize that it may be wrong. But leaving it untreated could possibly cost you ur life, as you sound very disturbed by this. These people have a privacy policy and they've probably heard the worst of the worst. They wouldn't hold blame to you. It may be hard for you to talk to someone, just make sure u don't settle for just anyone. If you feel uncomfortable about them or don't like them, find someone else. I had to go through MANY psychiatrists/psychologists before finding 2 people that I absolutely adored and loved. And they've changed my whole life. Maybe explaining to them that it's difficult to say/talk about and maybe you can write it down for them. They could even read it after u leave a session, to better prepare you for next time. But, if you want to get to the bottom of it, I think you should truly talk to a professional you can learn to trust and be comfortable talking to.
Good Luck and Take Care!
First of all i am glad you have finally come out and explained how you feel to someone, such as here on yahoo.. And also, glad you have not followed up on any of the bad thoughts you may have or had. Now importantly, go to see a doctor. You don't have to go into detail with your doctor, you can give slight detail and there are meds to help with certain things. But not always. Councelling is a good choice to go to for sure. There are many people to talk to regarding all areas of life. That is why they work as councellors to help others. Please do not hesitate and go for help.
I know someone whom is ocd and they are helping themselves right now by talking to people and everytime they get a thought they quickly stop the thought and say how wrong it is and think about something else. Or if something isnt the way it should be ( in his mind he had to redo it because it wasn't right the first time but meanwhile it was) and instead of him fixing it, they stop and make themselves not do it. I have to admit, i did that for years myself and i finally am over it. It took a lot of me telling myself i didnt need to do it the second time. It takes time and this person has come a long way now.
My husband had some uncalled for thoughts when he was younger and he is great now. No thoughts whatsoever. We have an open relationship and we talk about everything. We are in our early thirties and live a great healthy happy life! Wanted to share that with you, to let you know there is 100% hope. I will be thinking of you, please take care!
I wish you all the best, please take care and pleae talk to a councellor, doctor and/or a good friend or someone..
If I am not mistaken, (and I have been know to be so), I don't think you need your parents permission to go and see a mental health provider. Don't worry about what the counselor will think of you for divulging some of the thoughts you have. That is why you are there to see them! And believe me, they have heard it all, so what you have to say won't even make them bat an eye. There are different options and solutions for OCD, if that is what you have. If you are bothered by the thoughts this much, definitely seek treatment. It will make a world of difference to you.
you are very brave to come out and tell the world what you are going through. it sounds like you need some help the good thing is you know what you are feeling is wrong you maybe need to speak to a psychotherapist who could help you get to the bottom of what you are thinking. what i really want to say to you though is maybe here is not a good place to talk as (not patronizing you) you are only 17 and their are all sorts of weirdos out their who are prepared to act on their thoughts and being so young and vulnerable these people could either try to convince you it is normal or even try to befriend you for their own end s please see that councilor or psychotherapist you can do this via your doctor
I understand what you're going through. I have had the same experience. What is crucial for you is to realize these thoughts are obviously not what you choose to think about. We who have these thoughts may become depressed thinking we are some sort of monster. We are not. These are Unvolitional thoughts, which means they go against our will. I will give you the advice which helped me pull myself out of that loop.
1) Don't react so deeply to these thoughts, when you tear out your hair and scream this creates a deeper impression then the bad thought itself, and makes it more likely for the bad thought to re-occur.
2) Simply state your choice. I choose not to have disturbing thoughts which are boring and rude. Choose it in all different sorts of ways. I choose to think about something good and healthy! I choose not to think right now! The change can be felt, this is a very powerful practice.
3) Keep yourself socially active, and out of your head. Try not to think in words at all. Practice thinking in pictures, or in colors, try to meditate on what your body feels like. Stop thinking in words. You don't think in words in order to hold a conversation, do you? Thinking in words is a sort of sickness in itself, mostly it is a lot of negative garbage.
4) Pray to your Divine Guardian for help healing your mind. Pray for every kind of help you need. It's simple, it will change everything. Invite the healing help from a higher power, you will be heard.
Be blessed. I know trust is hard, I hope you give these ideas a try.
Yes, I believe 100% that you have OCD. And that you are lucky to know that now instead of wondering if you are crazy. I will share my experience with you in hopes that it will help, because for a lot of my youth I thought I was crazy.
Starting on summer break of 4th grade, I started having horrible thoughts about killing myself and killing others. These thoughts would make me cry for hours. I felt like I was in a black cloud and I was so scared of everything. I was scared to be near sharp knives because I was scared I would stab myself or someone else. I was scared of going on cliffs during vacations because I kept visualizing myself jumping or pushing my loved ones off. I didn't have these thoughts because I enjoyed them, or because I wanted to die or kill anyone (just the opposite, I loved life and was well loved), I just couldn't stop them and they put me in a constant state of depression.
When I went back to school in the fall, the thoughts mostly disappeared, then they came back the following summer, all the way through high school. Typically I would wake up ok, but by mid to late afternoon every day of summer vacation, there were times when I was so overtaken by these thoughts that I couldn't do anything but cry myself into exhaustion. And yes, there were times these thoughts included doing things that were inappropriate in front of people whose opinions of me were important to me.
I did notice a pattern by high school that it had something to do with my idle time, so I started filling my schedule with social and work type of activities and that helped a lot.
I talked to my parents about it, but they downplayed it, I think because they didn't understand the severity of the depression it was causing and because they didn't know what to do for me.
When I got married and pregnant at 19, these thoughts got worse. And when my daughter was born I was terrified of her. I started seeing myself dropping her, or hurting her in some way and I wouldn't let my husband leave me alone with her. So, I got myself some help. The first person I saw diagnosed me as bipolar. I read a ton of books on it and it didn't fit. Then while I was looking into books, I ran across one called Brain Lock, which was about OCD. Everything fit. When people think about OCD, they think about compulsions, the people with odd counting habits, paranoia about door locks, and hand-washing obsessions. I had always had a bit of that, but not enough to be noticed. My symptoms manifested themselves more in the obsessive thoughts, but that isn't a well known symptom, so I had no idea.
I read the book Brain Lock and realized several things, first, that I wasn't the only one suffering from these symptoms. Second, that I wasn't psychotic. Third, that no one ever diagnosed with my type of OCD had ever acted on their feelings in a way that hurt those they loved. And fourth, that knowing what it was that was causing these thoughts made them controllable.
After I read the book, the symptoms became almost completely controllable, and the occasional times I feel that cold feeling wash over me with a new horrible thought, I remember what it is and I can make it stop. The biggest reason those thoughts controlled me is because I didn't understand what they meant and it scared me that I might be crazy so I let them control me. Once I realized that it was just a part of my brain getting overheated, I let it go. I still don't watch horror movies because the worst scenes will play over and over in a loop in my mind, but I get this about myself and still enjoy the rest of my life.
If it doesn't go away for you after you find understanding of what you are going through, then go find yourself a good psychiatrist. There are light medications that are designed to help OCD, and while I hate the pharmaceutical industry for thinking that everything can be fixed with a pill, I do know that there are lots of people who can be helped with even a short time on certain anti-depressants. Just make sure that they don't kill everything inside you or make the thoughts worse, monitor carefully.
You are ok, and you will be ok. Your brain just gets a little overheated in some places. Please e-mail me if learning more about my story can help you.
Go to the doctor! They can help so much. Take my word for it. I have a friend who has those same kind of thoughts and you right they can come from the OCD. Medication has help her so much. But word to the wise medication is only part of it. It won't take it all away. And if you are worried about freaking out they doctor by telling him about the thoughts. Don't be cause they have heard it all. You are going to be surprised at how many people have the same thoughts you have.
Try to talk with your parent to go see a physiologist.
I know you said that you don't want to do that but you don't have to dump everything on the psych all at once. They aren't going to push that secret button, while you are laying there, and have you hauled off. Just sit and chat with the guy. Answer a few questions and let him lead the conversation. Then, he can assess what's going on. If you do have OCD, they'll drop you some meds, and you should level out.
You can only get help if you ask. This was a good start.
Trust me...Here's a little tid-bit that many will deny to their grave...A lot of your thoughts are normal and are actually part of the hormone changes that are going on. You might actually level out in a few years but it's still best to have a doc/psych check you out. They can help.
I do hope you talk to your mom or dad who ever you are closer to. They will help you through this. Get help and I am sure this can be done quietly.
Don't let this go on, especially now that you know that you need some type of help. Yahoo answers can only give advice, we sure don't have the answer you your problem.
Get someone you trust to help you through this though and may you find the peace you are looking for without hurting yourself or someone else.
go to therapy. or pray to god
Go to a psychiatrist if you feel out of control. Believe me, they have heard it all so I doubt you will surprise them.
you could also try going to church and praying.
As long as you don't act on your thoughts it may just be something you will grow out of. At your age it's not abnormal to have wacky fantasies.
Join a sports team, do something that involves teambuilding and unity, it seems like you have friends, your just not bonding with them enough.
you NEED a therapist, just DO IT, this people have the level experience and moral to help and never in the life say a thing about it. if you keep alone the problem is going to become biggest and worse JUST DO IT don't say in your mind i can't just do it, your family/friends doesn't have to know you can keep it secret but do it get therapy believe me this people are specialist for heard this kind of things and HELP they really help. you can get help at your school just say that you need to see a therapist and don;t specify.
another QUIT porn or any kind if sex per now, since you get help, as a man i know that this is really hard but enjoy a sport team, a work or something that make you busy and focus in another things.
And the most important, pray to God, read the scriptures the Bible, Book of Mormon and others. because with God help your problem will run away believe.
Good luck my friend.
you definitely need to see a psychiatrist. you need to be on medication, it could be for a short time until the chemical imbalance is corrected or for longer, you do not need to tell the Dr the details of your thoughts, but you do need to tell them that you are having them and that it is making you feel the way you feel. You are suffering and there is a solution. You have already taken the first step by admitting you have a problem.
the only way to solve this is to get help. Talk to Mom and Dad about the problem
Very normal, if honest others would say they have had such thoughts. I'm normal, but when 17 I felt the same way. The road thru life is long and bumpy, take plenty beer... a sticker says, don't become a boozer, but be forwarned that the road is long and bumpy so treat the bumps as normal. It's not if you have problems, it's when you have problems...and how you handle your problems. Perhaps you have had some **** happen to you in the past, we all have, so that is normal. Just accept that something has happened, and accept it, write it out , talk it out even to yourself. Then get on with living
When you begin to feel these crap thoughts, say to youself; get back crap thoughts, I refuse to listen. And don't listen, often action will get them away. Ever notice when your cleaning the house, running etc. you can't worry, helps every time. Then the decision to not listen becomes a habit.
One of your main problems is you have kept this fear within for so long, you should have talke to the Yahoo answeres before, or your mom, a friend. Now that you know your not abnormal you can beging to accept yourself, your life...
Here is a very good way of looking at it: a problem happens, and a solution should arise to combat the problem, but with people like you you awfulize and distort the solution and problem. It should be 1 + 1 = 2. But when you awfulize the solution can be = canned corn, or any such stupid incorrect solution.
For instance:
A person is afraid to give a talk in front of 20 people. They think I'm a stupid creep, can't even do this right, I feel inferior, I am inferior. No one else has this problem, I think I will just go eat a candy bar, watch tv and bite my nails, I can't speak infront of others.
Problem= Fear of speaking
Solution= Don't speak
Solution= Go to Toastmasters, etc...
Accept yourself, don't be hard on yourself, don't take yourself too seriously, another day will come and you will be rite back withyourslef.
Hope this helps.
Albert Ellis, Psy. put out a good book long ago, something about crooked thinking. It's a thinking problem. Identifythe problem and take action to correct the problem, you must DO somthing, just thinking about it won't help.
I don't want to go see a doctor / psychiatrist because i cant tell them what the thoughts are as they are so repulsive!!
It's only after a bit of research on here i have discovered that I may have OCD. COuld this also be linked to the fact I'm always paranoid about getting cancer etc... (hypochondirac!)
I don't understand! I've always taken risks in life (e.g going skydiving soon) but I get extremely anxious about diseases etc!
I really need some advice, what can i do to get rid of these thoughts!?
One which in particular makes me feel sick is i get a though during masturbation/sexual activity - despite me being absolutely disgusted it makes me ejaculate extremely quickly! I know for a fact i do not like any of these thoughts! I am not homosexual, a paedophile etc... but why this!?
Does anyone else have the same problems?!?! Please help.
I'm only 17 by the way.
Answers: The only true way you will be able to deal with it and understand it is if you do go to a professional. It doesn't make you a bad person, especially since you realize that it may be wrong. But leaving it untreated could possibly cost you ur life, as you sound very disturbed by this. These people have a privacy policy and they've probably heard the worst of the worst. They wouldn't hold blame to you. It may be hard for you to talk to someone, just make sure u don't settle for just anyone. If you feel uncomfortable about them or don't like them, find someone else. I had to go through MANY psychiatrists/psychologists before finding 2 people that I absolutely adored and loved. And they've changed my whole life. Maybe explaining to them that it's difficult to say/talk about and maybe you can write it down for them. They could even read it after u leave a session, to better prepare you for next time. But, if you want to get to the bottom of it, I think you should truly talk to a professional you can learn to trust and be comfortable talking to.
Good Luck and Take Care!
First of all i am glad you have finally come out and explained how you feel to someone, such as here on yahoo.. And also, glad you have not followed up on any of the bad thoughts you may have or had. Now importantly, go to see a doctor. You don't have to go into detail with your doctor, you can give slight detail and there are meds to help with certain things. But not always. Councelling is a good choice to go to for sure. There are many people to talk to regarding all areas of life. That is why they work as councellors to help others. Please do not hesitate and go for help.
I know someone whom is ocd and they are helping themselves right now by talking to people and everytime they get a thought they quickly stop the thought and say how wrong it is and think about something else. Or if something isnt the way it should be ( in his mind he had to redo it because it wasn't right the first time but meanwhile it was) and instead of him fixing it, they stop and make themselves not do it. I have to admit, i did that for years myself and i finally am over it. It took a lot of me telling myself i didnt need to do it the second time. It takes time and this person has come a long way now.
My husband had some uncalled for thoughts when he was younger and he is great now. No thoughts whatsoever. We have an open relationship and we talk about everything. We are in our early thirties and live a great healthy happy life! Wanted to share that with you, to let you know there is 100% hope. I will be thinking of you, please take care!
I wish you all the best, please take care and pleae talk to a councellor, doctor and/or a good friend or someone..
If I am not mistaken, (and I have been know to be so), I don't think you need your parents permission to go and see a mental health provider. Don't worry about what the counselor will think of you for divulging some of the thoughts you have. That is why you are there to see them! And believe me, they have heard it all, so what you have to say won't even make them bat an eye. There are different options and solutions for OCD, if that is what you have. If you are bothered by the thoughts this much, definitely seek treatment. It will make a world of difference to you.
you are very brave to come out and tell the world what you are going through. it sounds like you need some help the good thing is you know what you are feeling is wrong you maybe need to speak to a psychotherapist who could help you get to the bottom of what you are thinking. what i really want to say to you though is maybe here is not a good place to talk as (not patronizing you) you are only 17 and their are all sorts of weirdos out their who are prepared to act on their thoughts and being so young and vulnerable these people could either try to convince you it is normal or even try to befriend you for their own end s please see that councilor or psychotherapist you can do this via your doctor
I understand what you're going through. I have had the same experience. What is crucial for you is to realize these thoughts are obviously not what you choose to think about. We who have these thoughts may become depressed thinking we are some sort of monster. We are not. These are Unvolitional thoughts, which means they go against our will. I will give you the advice which helped me pull myself out of that loop.
1) Don't react so deeply to these thoughts, when you tear out your hair and scream this creates a deeper impression then the bad thought itself, and makes it more likely for the bad thought to re-occur.
2) Simply state your choice. I choose not to have disturbing thoughts which are boring and rude. Choose it in all different sorts of ways. I choose to think about something good and healthy! I choose not to think right now! The change can be felt, this is a very powerful practice.
3) Keep yourself socially active, and out of your head. Try not to think in words at all. Practice thinking in pictures, or in colors, try to meditate on what your body feels like. Stop thinking in words. You don't think in words in order to hold a conversation, do you? Thinking in words is a sort of sickness in itself, mostly it is a lot of negative garbage.
4) Pray to your Divine Guardian for help healing your mind. Pray for every kind of help you need. It's simple, it will change everything. Invite the healing help from a higher power, you will be heard.
Be blessed. I know trust is hard, I hope you give these ideas a try.
Yes, I believe 100% that you have OCD. And that you are lucky to know that now instead of wondering if you are crazy. I will share my experience with you in hopes that it will help, because for a lot of my youth I thought I was crazy.
Starting on summer break of 4th grade, I started having horrible thoughts about killing myself and killing others. These thoughts would make me cry for hours. I felt like I was in a black cloud and I was so scared of everything. I was scared to be near sharp knives because I was scared I would stab myself or someone else. I was scared of going on cliffs during vacations because I kept visualizing myself jumping or pushing my loved ones off. I didn't have these thoughts because I enjoyed them, or because I wanted to die or kill anyone (just the opposite, I loved life and was well loved), I just couldn't stop them and they put me in a constant state of depression.
When I went back to school in the fall, the thoughts mostly disappeared, then they came back the following summer, all the way through high school. Typically I would wake up ok, but by mid to late afternoon every day of summer vacation, there were times when I was so overtaken by these thoughts that I couldn't do anything but cry myself into exhaustion. And yes, there were times these thoughts included doing things that were inappropriate in front of people whose opinions of me were important to me.
I did notice a pattern by high school that it had something to do with my idle time, so I started filling my schedule with social and work type of activities and that helped a lot.
I talked to my parents about it, but they downplayed it, I think because they didn't understand the severity of the depression it was causing and because they didn't know what to do for me.
When I got married and pregnant at 19, these thoughts got worse. And when my daughter was born I was terrified of her. I started seeing myself dropping her, or hurting her in some way and I wouldn't let my husband leave me alone with her. So, I got myself some help. The first person I saw diagnosed me as bipolar. I read a ton of books on it and it didn't fit. Then while I was looking into books, I ran across one called Brain Lock, which was about OCD. Everything fit. When people think about OCD, they think about compulsions, the people with odd counting habits, paranoia about door locks, and hand-washing obsessions. I had always had a bit of that, but not enough to be noticed. My symptoms manifested themselves more in the obsessive thoughts, but that isn't a well known symptom, so I had no idea.
I read the book Brain Lock and realized several things, first, that I wasn't the only one suffering from these symptoms. Second, that I wasn't psychotic. Third, that no one ever diagnosed with my type of OCD had ever acted on their feelings in a way that hurt those they loved. And fourth, that knowing what it was that was causing these thoughts made them controllable.
After I read the book, the symptoms became almost completely controllable, and the occasional times I feel that cold feeling wash over me with a new horrible thought, I remember what it is and I can make it stop. The biggest reason those thoughts controlled me is because I didn't understand what they meant and it scared me that I might be crazy so I let them control me. Once I realized that it was just a part of my brain getting overheated, I let it go. I still don't watch horror movies because the worst scenes will play over and over in a loop in my mind, but I get this about myself and still enjoy the rest of my life.
If it doesn't go away for you after you find understanding of what you are going through, then go find yourself a good psychiatrist. There are light medications that are designed to help OCD, and while I hate the pharmaceutical industry for thinking that everything can be fixed with a pill, I do know that there are lots of people who can be helped with even a short time on certain anti-depressants. Just make sure that they don't kill everything inside you or make the thoughts worse, monitor carefully.
You are ok, and you will be ok. Your brain just gets a little overheated in some places. Please e-mail me if learning more about my story can help you.
Go to the doctor! They can help so much. Take my word for it. I have a friend who has those same kind of thoughts and you right they can come from the OCD. Medication has help her so much. But word to the wise medication is only part of it. It won't take it all away. And if you are worried about freaking out they doctor by telling him about the thoughts. Don't be cause they have heard it all. You are going to be surprised at how many people have the same thoughts you have.
Try to talk with your parent to go see a physiologist.
I know you said that you don't want to do that but you don't have to dump everything on the psych all at once. They aren't going to push that secret button, while you are laying there, and have you hauled off. Just sit and chat with the guy. Answer a few questions and let him lead the conversation. Then, he can assess what's going on. If you do have OCD, they'll drop you some meds, and you should level out.
You can only get help if you ask. This was a good start.
Trust me...Here's a little tid-bit that many will deny to their grave...A lot of your thoughts are normal and are actually part of the hormone changes that are going on. You might actually level out in a few years but it's still best to have a doc/psych check you out. They can help.
I do hope you talk to your mom or dad who ever you are closer to. They will help you through this. Get help and I am sure this can be done quietly.
Don't let this go on, especially now that you know that you need some type of help. Yahoo answers can only give advice, we sure don't have the answer you your problem.
Get someone you trust to help you through this though and may you find the peace you are looking for without hurting yourself or someone else.
go to therapy. or pray to god
Go to a psychiatrist if you feel out of control. Believe me, they have heard it all so I doubt you will surprise them.
you could also try going to church and praying.
As long as you don't act on your thoughts it may just be something you will grow out of. At your age it's not abnormal to have wacky fantasies.
Join a sports team, do something that involves teambuilding and unity, it seems like you have friends, your just not bonding with them enough.
you NEED a therapist, just DO IT, this people have the level experience and moral to help and never in the life say a thing about it. if you keep alone the problem is going to become biggest and worse JUST DO IT don't say in your mind i can't just do it, your family/friends doesn't have to know you can keep it secret but do it get therapy believe me this people are specialist for heard this kind of things and HELP they really help. you can get help at your school just say that you need to see a therapist and don;t specify.
another QUIT porn or any kind if sex per now, since you get help, as a man i know that this is really hard but enjoy a sport team, a work or something that make you busy and focus in another things.
And the most important, pray to God, read the scriptures the Bible, Book of Mormon and others. because with God help your problem will run away believe.
Good luck my friend.
you definitely need to see a psychiatrist. you need to be on medication, it could be for a short time until the chemical imbalance is corrected or for longer, you do not need to tell the Dr the details of your thoughts, but you do need to tell them that you are having them and that it is making you feel the way you feel. You are suffering and there is a solution. You have already taken the first step by admitting you have a problem.
the only way to solve this is to get help. Talk to Mom and Dad about the problem
Very normal, if honest others would say they have had such thoughts. I'm normal, but when 17 I felt the same way. The road thru life is long and bumpy, take plenty beer... a sticker says, don't become a boozer, but be forwarned that the road is long and bumpy so treat the bumps as normal. It's not if you have problems, it's when you have problems...and how you handle your problems. Perhaps you have had some **** happen to you in the past, we all have, so that is normal. Just accept that something has happened, and accept it, write it out , talk it out even to yourself. Then get on with living
When you begin to feel these crap thoughts, say to youself; get back crap thoughts, I refuse to listen. And don't listen, often action will get them away. Ever notice when your cleaning the house, running etc. you can't worry, helps every time. Then the decision to not listen becomes a habit.
One of your main problems is you have kept this fear within for so long, you should have talke to the Yahoo answeres before, or your mom, a friend. Now that you know your not abnormal you can beging to accept yourself, your life...
Here is a very good way of looking at it: a problem happens, and a solution should arise to combat the problem, but with people like you you awfulize and distort the solution and problem. It should be 1 + 1 = 2. But when you awfulize the solution can be = canned corn, or any such stupid incorrect solution.
For instance:
A person is afraid to give a talk in front of 20 people. They think I'm a stupid creep, can't even do this right, I feel inferior, I am inferior. No one else has this problem, I think I will just go eat a candy bar, watch tv and bite my nails, I can't speak infront of others.
Problem= Fear of speaking
Solution= Don't speak
Solution= Go to Toastmasters, etc...
Accept yourself, don't be hard on yourself, don't take yourself too seriously, another day will come and you will be rite back withyourslef.
Hope this helps.
Albert Ellis, Psy. put out a good book long ago, something about crooked thinking. It's a thinking problem. Identifythe problem and take action to correct the problem, you must DO somthing, just thinking about it won't help.
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