I expect my loved one to get a dire diagnosis soon. How can I help her and what are the words she will need??
Question: to hear? What have you heard that comforted you? what has helped you? and how can I be strong when I feel like jello?
Answers: my best advice is to just be there for her. its going to be tough when she gets the diagnosis. make sure u show her that u will stand by her and listen to everything no matter what. b there and listen. get as involved as you can and ask her questions. ask how she's doing and just be there for her. it will make u both feel better knowing that you have each other to talk to. its important that you stay postive with her, even when you may think its the worst. even a little glimpse of false hope is worth having. hope is hope and it keeps people fighting. also, make her laugh. that has really helped me through my tough times. laughter really is the best medicine. it keeps people feeling good mentally which is important when they need to get through hard times. it gets there mind off of things and refreshes them mentally. even if u feel like jello, its important you try and stay strong. it may not be easy, but i kno you'll be able to do it :). try showing her pictures of old times or giv her something to laugh about. dont think about all the bad things. stay positive, i know it must b easier said than done, but things happen for good reasons. keep telling yourself that she will get better. make yourself and her believe it with every ounce of faith you have and it may definetly work. most importantly, just be there for her, show her that there's hope and NEVER break down. it'll b tough, but keep faith.
i really hope she gets better. she must be very happy and fortunate to hav someone like you who cares so much about her! remember to stay strong, things will work out for the better. stay positive and as happy as you can both be. you both will get through this, just live ur lives as happily as you can!! i'll keep praying for you guys!! keep ur chin up, it'll b okay! :)
best wishes and much luck!!
esha
I will be here to support you & do what I can to help you through this.
And mean it!!!!!!!! There are many people out there who say this & then when you need help (ride to a doctor, help with cooking, cleaning, shopping, kids, etc.) they make every excuse in the book to keep from actually following through.
In others words....be a REAL friend to this person.
maybe it won't be as bad as you think...
'Don't worry everything will be alright.....Just have faith in god....close ur eyes & tell the god what u feel & u'll surely feel better.'
are you a lesbian?
that's cool, i guess
but uhm, just tell her how much you love and that everything happens for a reason.
cliche i know, but it works.
The most important thing is that she knows you're there for her, that you not going to abandon her. What you say isn't important (and who knows what to say anyway at a time like that!) It's okay to be shocked, frightened, etc. etc. It will just be an enormous help to her have someone beside her to help her through it.
I'm very sorry to hear about it, and I hope things go better than you expected.
A simple quote from the old movie MASH sums it up quite well. Suicide is painless, it brings on many changes .
When Bad Things Happen to Good People. Rabbi... it will come to me. Rabbi Kushner. His son had that premature aging disease.
He said that they only thing that you can do is listen to the person. Don't be afraid to be stupid. Just be there, hold her hand, say you can't imagine what it must be like, but you want to hear her feelings, listen to her plans. Cry with her. Don't minimize it. You don't need to be strong, you just need to be with her.
Read the book. You can get it cheap on Amazon, or free at the library.
Answers: my best advice is to just be there for her. its going to be tough when she gets the diagnosis. make sure u show her that u will stand by her and listen to everything no matter what. b there and listen. get as involved as you can and ask her questions. ask how she's doing and just be there for her. it will make u both feel better knowing that you have each other to talk to. its important that you stay postive with her, even when you may think its the worst. even a little glimpse of false hope is worth having. hope is hope and it keeps people fighting. also, make her laugh. that has really helped me through my tough times. laughter really is the best medicine. it keeps people feeling good mentally which is important when they need to get through hard times. it gets there mind off of things and refreshes them mentally. even if u feel like jello, its important you try and stay strong. it may not be easy, but i kno you'll be able to do it :). try showing her pictures of old times or giv her something to laugh about. dont think about all the bad things. stay positive, i know it must b easier said than done, but things happen for good reasons. keep telling yourself that she will get better. make yourself and her believe it with every ounce of faith you have and it may definetly work. most importantly, just be there for her, show her that there's hope and NEVER break down. it'll b tough, but keep faith.
i really hope she gets better. she must be very happy and fortunate to hav someone like you who cares so much about her! remember to stay strong, things will work out for the better. stay positive and as happy as you can both be. you both will get through this, just live ur lives as happily as you can!! i'll keep praying for you guys!! keep ur chin up, it'll b okay! :)
best wishes and much luck!!
esha
I will be here to support you & do what I can to help you through this.
And mean it!!!!!!!! There are many people out there who say this & then when you need help (ride to a doctor, help with cooking, cleaning, shopping, kids, etc.) they make every excuse in the book to keep from actually following through.
In others words....be a REAL friend to this person.
maybe it won't be as bad as you think...
'Don't worry everything will be alright.....Just have faith in god....close ur eyes & tell the god what u feel & u'll surely feel better.'
are you a lesbian?
that's cool, i guess
but uhm, just tell her how much you love and that everything happens for a reason.
cliche i know, but it works.
The most important thing is that she knows you're there for her, that you not going to abandon her. What you say isn't important (and who knows what to say anyway at a time like that!) It's okay to be shocked, frightened, etc. etc. It will just be an enormous help to her have someone beside her to help her through it.
I'm very sorry to hear about it, and I hope things go better than you expected.
A simple quote from the old movie MASH sums it up quite well. Suicide is painless, it brings on many changes .
When Bad Things Happen to Good People. Rabbi... it will come to me. Rabbi Kushner. His son had that premature aging disease.
He said that they only thing that you can do is listen to the person. Don't be afraid to be stupid. Just be there, hold her hand, say you can't imagine what it must be like, but you want to hear her feelings, listen to her plans. Cry with her. Don't minimize it. You don't need to be strong, you just need to be with her.
Read the book. You can get it cheap on Amazon, or free at the library.
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